Monday, April 27, 2015
"You have so much self-confidence!" "I could never be as confident as you." "Where does all this self-confidence come from?"
While most believe these comments are compliments, I find them to be almost insulting...let's discuss why: As a dark skinned, overweight black woman with nappy, natural hair (real/weave/wig), I am everything that society tells you is ugly or non desirable. I am not the standard of beauty, in America and many, many other countries. You will not open a popular, mainstream magazine and see me. You will not click on the television and see a character who looks like me unless it involves a nanny, being oversexualized or a stereotype....yes, even in "black" television shows. Up until a few years ago, you wouldn't even see me in blogs (with the exception of Tumblr; it's always been ahead of the game). Thank God things are slowly changing, but when I hear someone ask me how I became so confident, I hear this: "You're dark, fat and nappy, so how are you pretty? How can you have so much confidence when you're not supposed to??" While this may sound defensive, it is my truth. If I listened to society and others, I would be a miserable person. When people marvel at how well I dress, I have to laugh because in this day and age, with all of social media, you still think a fat women cannot dress well. I don't view being dark, fat and nappy as a disadvantage, but I have tough skin. I am not brave for my fashion choices; I just happen to be a plus sized woman who loves bright colors and unique designs. If dark skin, natural hair and some cellulite are considered flaws, then I want nothing to do with perfection. If you take nothing from this post but one thing, let it be this: Beauty comes in ALL shades, ALL sizes, ALL hair textures. Oh and to answer the question, my self-confidence comes from looking in the mirror and telling myself that I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am deserving of all things good. I find beauty in flaws and you should as well. Be your best you...
Monday, April 13, 2015
Hola! I hope all is well with you; how's your spring treating you thus far? The last few weeks have been super stressful, but I am happy to report that things have finally settled down. I am so grateful to have this tiny space to express myself style-wise; it's a huge stress release. You all have made this blogging experience absolutely wonderful and I feel so blessed to have you. Ok, now on to why you're really here...
I love the look of an off the shoulder dress and Asos (of course) has provided me with a piece I absolutely adore. It's super lightweight, comfy and best of all?? No shape wear is needed *throws glitter*
On the model, the dress isn't belted; however I wanted to give it some shape. I wish this dress came in different prints, but I am in no way complaining. Nothing wrong with paisley in a fun shape.
Monday, March 30, 2015
Dress worn as tunic: Here
Skirt: Vince Camuto
Layering a dress is a super easy way of incorporating style into fashion. These looks are complete opposites, but isn't that the beauty of personal style? Doing it YOUR way. What do y'all think? Which look is your favorite?
*This post was sponsored by Pop Up Plus; however all opinions are my own.
Friday, March 27, 2015
Happy Friday everyone! We're gearing up for another 90 degree weekend in Los Angeles and I am loving it. Happy weather calls for happy clothing...
When I initially saw these "matching" separates on Simply Be's site, I was excited. It's perfect for work and versatile; if I tucked the shirt in, it gives the look of a jumpsuit. I wanted that extra oooomph that citron brings, so I added these sandals from BCBGeneration. Unfortunately, the sizing on both the pants and the blouse run small (especially the arms), definitely go up 1 or 2 sizes when purchasing. I'm headed to the store opening of Nasty Gal in Santa Monica (pics coming), so I will chat with you all later :-)
Monday, March 23, 2015
Monday, March 16, 2015
This week, it seems as if LA has decided to completely bypass spring and jump right into summer with 90 degree temps. You know what they say: When in Rome...so I thought it fitting to bring out this super bright, colorblocked blazer. As much as I love to thrift, online shopping has made it so much easier to find unique items (often deadstock) without having to get dressed. I found this amazing swing blazer via Etsy and immediately fell in love. I paired it down with denim shorts and added a metallic touch with dsquared sandals. Next time, I'm picturing a cobalt blue mini skirt and nude heels. What do we think?
Friday, February 20, 2015
Hola! Hope you all are well and enjoying your February. Today's look is brought to you courtesy of Fly Curve Boutique. As the majority of these fashion boutique's sizing is Jr Plus, I was skeptical about the fit, but was pleasantly surprised; the fit and quality were nice. This is a 3x, but I could've easily sized down. I added my own belt and juicy orange pumps for that needed pop of color. This is a perfect transitioning piece from Winter to Spring.